What Some of Us Don't Say at the Table - And the Deck That Helps You Say It: {THE AND} Family Edition
Families talk a lot, but don’t always say what matters. {THE AND} Family Edition invites honest, caring conversations across generations and dynamics, helping you share more than just meals and memories. Share truth. Share you.
Families share meals, holidays, stories, inside jokes, and sometimes… long silences. We say a lot without saying much. We check in without checking deeper. We ask how was your day?, but not always what do you need from me lately?
That’s where the {THE AND} Family Edition comes in.
This deck isn’t about fixing anything. It’s about noticing what’s already there, and inviting more of it. More connection. More understanding. More honest space between the people who mean the most.
Because even the most talkative families can benefit from better questions.
What does this deck actually do?
{THE AND} Family Edition includes 199 carefully written questions meant to open up meaningful dialogue between generations, across cultures, within chosen families, or between relatives who want to get closer but aren’t sure how to start.
These are questions designed with care, empathy, and emotional nuance. Some help you go back in time. Some help you be more present now. And others help you imagine the kind of future you want to co-create as a family.
Think less “game night,” more collective reflection, in a format that still feels playful and safe.
Use it in the in-between moments.
- A Sunday morning at home with your kids
- A long phone call with your mom or dad
- A road trip or vacation with your siblings
- A one-on-one moment with your teenager or your grandmother
- A family reunion that needs more than just food and photos
Some families use the deck as a regular ritual. Others pick it up during hard transitions, grief, growth, big changes. Some use it in therapy. Some use it just to feel closer.
The only requirement is a willingness to show up and be curious.
Because family is not one thing. It’s everything.
It’s messy. It’s layered. It’s made of moments that live in the background, often unspoken but deeply felt. The Family Edition helps bring those moments into the light.
Here are just a few prompts from the deck:
- “When was the last time I misunderstood you and why do you think I did?”
- “What do you think I am learning from you?”
- “What about our dynamic concerns you?”
- “What are the subjects we avoid talking about and how do you feel about that?”
- “What’s the pain in me you’d like to heal?”
It’s not about conflict. It’s about clarity. It’s about recognizing that love doesn’t always sound like “I love you.” Sometimes it sounds like a question that makes someone pause and say, “No one’s ever asked me that before.”
The point isn’t to have one big talk. It’s to keep talking.
Whether your family is loud or quiet, close-knit or spread across time zones, this deck gives you the chance to check in with each other in a way that goes beyond the surface.
Because in the end, family is not just the people we share DNA with. It’s the people we share our stories with.
Beau
Regina Zuniga
The Skin Deep Digital Content Specialist
